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Let’s face it: Our social media selves aren’t always our real selves. We want to come across as happy (all the time), very busy with cool and important things, and somehow successful at everything we do. That’s not how we really are, but we know no one’s going to “like” a picture of us having a bad day.

Unfortunately, none of this is particularly good for our mental health. But that’s what is making a new app called Huddle so popular: It’s specifically designed to be a safe space for users to be vulnerable and find support. Users can upload videos of themselves talking about their feelings, experiences, or suggestions for coping, as well as comment on and reply to other videos to offer support.

Founders Tyler Faux and Dan Blackman launched the app in August. “We started Huddle because although peer support is a tremendously effective method of therapy, it remains inaccessible to people around the world who need it most,” Faux said. “Our mission is to bring effective forms of therapy to everyone in the world. We’re starting with video support communities that celebrate vulnerability and honesty, in contrast with other forms of social media that encourage grandstanding and showing only the highlights of your life.”

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“Perfectionism doesn’t make you feel perfect. It makes you feel inadequate.” ~Maria Shriver

Like many of us, I spent a big part of growing up feeling like I wasn’t enough. I was quite a studious kid, and this coupled with being terrible at sports and also quite chubby meant I was a bit of a target. Indeed, when your first and last names both rhyme with “fat” it’s pretty easy for bullies with even limited wordsmith skills to come up with insults.

And it’s easy to say what words can’t hurt and that it says more about them than it did me. Yet, what it did mean for a long time was that I felt a lack of acceptance from my peers. And this does hurt. I don’t for a second think I’m alone with this either.

No matter who you are there’s times growing up when you want nothing more than acceptance.

Because here’s the thing: This need for acceptance, it’s a natural human tendency.

As we grow we try to fit into the world as best we can. We yearn to be grounded in who we are, so we fall into the trap of defining ourselves by what others say about us. As a result, over time, we become conditioned to believe that the world outside us is somehow responsible for our happiness and well-being. We look at our jobs, o…

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By Joshua Fields Millburn & Ryan Nicodemus · Follow: Facebook, Twitter, Instagram

What’s a closely held belief you haven’t questioned lately?
When’s the last time you changed your mind?
Why are you clinging to blind certainty?

Want to change something?
Change often starts with a question.

Holding onto a precious belief?
Question it.

Want a better answer?
Ask a better question.

Who? What? When? Where? Why? How?

Who is the person you want to become?
What is truly important?
When will you let go?
Where do you want to be?
Why do you give so much meaning to (blank)?
How will you define your own success?

Better questions lead to better answers, and th…

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“We’ll light the candle together when she’s ready. For now I’ll trust the darkness for us both.” ~Terri St. Cloud

Over breakfast one morning recently, Jeff and I started reminiscing about past years, and something was said that brought back a painful memory for me. My boss at the time had been unimaginably small-minded. He had hung me out to dry. “I still can’t understand why he did that,” I said.

Jeff looked at me levelly. “You need to get over it, Jan,” he said. “It was years ago.”

Wise advice, without question. The only problem was that I didn’t want it just then.

Why is it that we are so seldom allowed a few moments just to hurt? After a serious heartbreak like the death of a loved one, sure, we’re given all the leeway we need. But the run-of-the-mill slights and small, persistent sorrows are treated as something we should quickly move past, even when they’re deeply painful.

Jeff, poor guy, was just trying to help. I couldn’t fault him. I knew I was being a bit ridiculous. But what I longed for was someone to acknowledge my outrage, let me sit with it, live into it for a few moments—and then gently remind me that it’s time to get ove…

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“I’m not in this world to live up to your expectations and you’re not in this world to live up to mine.” ~Bruce Lee

About five years ago, I had a falling out with a close friend. I was irritated because she didn’t do the things I thought she should and she didn’t give as much as I did. I felt I had been very generous with her, and I expected her to do the same. I felt she owed me.

My anger became unmanageable and started seeping into pretty much every interaction we had. She began cancelling dinner plans and camping trips. She wouldn’t call me back after days of me leaving a message. It happened out of nowhere, and of course everything was her fault.

Except that it didn’t. And it wasn’t.

Not too long ago, I was a bit of a control freak. I didn’t know it, of course, and I would have described myself as open-minded and easy going. In reality, I was tormented by my own expectations.

Since I was a child, I had an image in my head about who I was supposed to be. What my family was supposed to look like. What house I was supposed to live in. What career success was supposed to mean. That’s a lot of supposing! I had always assum…