How to Let Go of the Need for Approval: What to Do and Not to Do

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“Confidence isn’t ‘they will like me.’ Confidence is ‘I’ll be fine if they don’t’.” ~Christina Grimmie

No one likes rejection. Some people have gotten comfortable with it, perhaps have even reframed it as something positive, but most of us prefer that other people approve of us and our choices.

It gives us a sense of security to know the people around us like us, understand us, support our decisions, and generally think we’re good people who deserve love, respect, and kindness. It makes us feel confident in our place within a social structure and assured that we won’t be alone when we need people the most.

But the need for approval—from all people, at all times—can be extremely painful and limiting. And it’s a fool’s errand to s…

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“Confidence isn’t ‘they will like me.’ Confidence is ‘I’ll be fine if they don’t’.” ~Christina Grimmie

No one likes rejection. Some people have gotten comfortable with it, perhaps have even reframed it as something positive, but most of us prefer that other people approve of us and our choices.

It gives us a sense of security to know the people around us like us, understand us, support our decisions, and generally think we’re good people who deserve love, respect, and kindness. It makes us feel confident in our place within a social structure and assured that we won’t be alone when we need people the most.

But the need for approval—from all people, at all times—can be extremely painful and limiting. And it’s a fool’s errand to s…

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