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Dear John,
How do I stop feeling so hurt by others, like when family members don’t say ‘thank you’ or when I say ‘hello’ and people don’t respond?
Sincerely,
Ms. Locs
Dear Ms. Locs,
Thank you for writing in! Your question is a good one in that it speaks to such a powerful and innate need we all have to feel appreciated and acknowledged. It is a wonderful and beautiful wish to be seen, met, and heard in a way that confirms our interconnectedness with each other.
My response to your question is twofold. The first deals with working on yourself. The second focuses more on working in relation to the other. My hope is that my guidance can move you toward harmony in these kinds of interactions.
A journey towards transforming unhelpful behaviors nearly always begins with an acknowledgment of what is happening. The pattern you are describing is that you are getting caught up in feeling hurt when others do not offer you the gratitude and courtesy that your humanness deserves. Your feelings on this make total sense and, putting myself in your shoes, I would feel the same. As you likely know, it can be tricky to get others to change. Therefore, we’re going to zero in on those behaviors that you can transform and how you can ask for what you want with integrity.
It sounds like…
Source http://www.sonima.com/meditation/mindful-living/slighted/
Dear John,
How do I stop feeling so hurt by others, like when family members don’t say ‘thank you’ or when I say ‘hello’ and people don’t respond?
Sincerely,
Ms. Locs
Dear Ms. Locs,
Thank you for writing in! Your question is a good one in that it speaks to such a powerful and innate need we all have to feel appreciated and acknowledged. It is a wonderful and beautiful wish to be seen, met, and heard in a way that confirms our interconnectedness with each other.
My response to your question is twofold. The first deals with working on yourself. The second focuses more on working in relation to the other. My hope is that my guidance can move you toward harmony in these kinds of interactions.
A journey towards transforming unhelpful behaviors nearly always begins with an acknowledgment of what is happening. The pattern you are describing is that you are getting caught up in feeling hurt when others do not offer you the gratitude and courtesy that your humanness deserves. Your feelings on this make total sense and, putting myself in your shoes, I would feel the same. As you likely know, it can be tricky to get others to change. Therefore, we’re going to zero in on those behaviors that you can transform and how you can ask for what you want with integrity.
It sounds like…
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