“Judging is preventing us from understanding a new truth. Free yourself from the rules of old judgments and create the space for new understanding.” ~Steve Maraboli
For a long time, I was a judgmental person. I would look at other people walking along the street—who had no idea I was even paying them any attention—and make all kinds of comments based on their appearance, their dress sense, the way they talk, walk, their weight—anything that took my fancy.
“She shouldn’t be wearing that skirt—it’s too short.”
“She should focus on losing weight, not scoffing down that bar of chocolate.”
“Her hair’s such a mess. Why doesn’t she comb it or something?”
The list of secret and harsh criticism was endless, but I didn’t think I was doing any harm. They didn’t know what I was saying about them, and I’m sure some of them would have had a few choice words to say about me, had they found out.
That may have been true, but what was the reason behind my unnecessary tearing down of these other people? It’s not as if they had done anything to me. They were simply going about their own business.
I didn’t think about why I was doing it. If you asked me at the time, I would have answered something …
“Judging is preventing us from understanding a new truth. Free yourself from the rules of old judgments and create the space for new understanding.” ~Steve Maraboli
For a long time, I was a judgmental person. I would look at other people walking along the street—who had no idea I was even paying them any attention—and make all kinds of comments based on their appearance, their dress sense, the way they talk, walk, their weight—anything that took my fancy.
“She shouldn’t be wearing that skirt—it’s too short.”
“She should focus on losing weight, not scoffing down that bar of chocolate.”
“Her hair’s such a mess. Why doesn’t she comb it or something?”
The list of secret and harsh criticism was endless, but I didn’t think I was doing any harm. They didn’t know what I was saying about them, and I’m sure some of them would have had a few choice words to say about me, had they found out.
That may have been true, but what was the reason behind my unnecessary tearing down of these other people? It’s not as if they had done anything to me. They were simply going about their own business.
I didn’t think about why I was doing it. If you asked me at the time, I would have answered something …
by James Gallagher for BBC: People who live near major roads have higher rates of dementia, research published in the Lancet suggests. As many as 11% of dementia cases in people living within 50m of a major road could be……
by James Gallagher for BBC: People who live near major roads have higher rates of dementia, research published in the Lancet suggests. As many as 11% of dementia cases in people living within 50m of a major road could be……
Nobody’s perfect. We all have our faults, and most of us have gotten really good at hiding them where no one can see them. Yet when someone becomes even a little bit intimate with us, they might reveal these faults and make light of them in a skillful (or not so skillful) way. How can we possibly be okay with that? And better yet, is there a way we could view this public humiliation as a teaching we can grow from?
There is a beautiful Buddhist text dating back to the 14th century known as the 37 Practices of a Bodhisattva. Bodhi can be translated from Sanskrit as “open” or “awake,” while sattva means “being,” so a bodhisattva is an open-hearted being. A meditation master known as Ngulchu Thogme composed these verses to teach us how to live a full life with open hearts, to be helpful to those around us, and to show up more for our day-to-day lives. One verse offers advice on how we can make peace with the people who might point out our flaws in a public way:
If in the middle of a crowd of people
Someone reveals your hidden faults and abuses you for them,
To see him as a spiritual friend and to bow with respect
Is the practice of a Bodhisattva.
Let’s say you’re out to dinner with your partner and a group of friends. You start talking about Brett, your annoying co-worker who always talks about people behind the…
Nobody’s perfect. We all have our faults, and most of us have gotten really good at hiding them where no one can see them. Yet when someone becomes even a little bit intimate with us, they might reveal these faults and make light of them in a skillful (or not so skillful) way. How can we possibly be okay with that? And better yet, is there a way we could view this public humiliation as a teaching we can grow from?
There is a beautiful Buddhist text dating back to the 14th century known as the 37 Practices of a Bodhisattva. Bodhi can be translated from Sanskrit as “open” or “awake,” while sattva means “being,” so a bodhisattva is an open-hearted being. A meditation master known as Ngulchu Thogme composed these verses to teach us how to live a full life with open hearts, to be helpful to those around us, and to show up more for our day-to-day lives. One verse offers advice on how we can make peace with the people who might point out our flaws in a public way:
If in the middle of a crowd of people
Someone reveals your hidden faults and abuses you for them,
To see him as a spiritual friend and to bow with respect
Is the practice of a Bodhisattva.
Let’s say you’re out to dinner with your partner and a group of friends. You start talking about Brett, your annoying co-worker who always talks about people behind the…
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One of my favorite things is coming home from work and seeing a bright pink box on my doorsteps. Once again, the POPSUGAR December Must Have Box was full of some awesome goodies this month. Mark it down for another awesome month for what’s in these cute little boxes. This subscription box never disappoints. My absolute favorite part of this month’s box was the adorable “catch-all” tray and matching ring dish by Odeme. I put them both on my dresser in my bedroom and filled the big one with all my bracelets I wear on a regular basis and then the smaller dish is filled with my rings. They are simply adorable and elegant. Perfect addition to my bedroom.
Disclosure: This post may contain affiliate / referral links.
One of my favorite things is coming home from work and seeing a bright pink box on my doorsteps. Once again, the POPSUGAR December Must Have Box was full of some awesome goodies this month. Mark it down for another awesome month for what’s in these cute little boxes. This subscription box never disappoints. My absolute favorite part of this month’s box was the adorable “catch-all” tray and matching ring dish by Odeme. I put them both on my dresser in my bedroom and filled the big one with all my bracelets I wear on a regular basis and then the smaller dish is filled with my rings. They are simply adorable and elegant. Perfect addition to my bedroom.
A new study in the January issue of Optometry and Vision Science Journal suggests that children who’ve had a concussion should undergo comprehensive eye exams to see if they’re ready to go back to school. This is especially important, researchers said, for kids who struggle in school. “Moving forward, physicians treating concussed patients should consider the damage
A new study in the January issue of Optometry and Vision Science Journal suggests that children who’ve had a concussion should undergo comprehensive eye exams to see if they’re ready to go back to school. This is especially important, researchers said, for kids who struggle in school. “Moving forward, physicians treating concussed patients should consider the damage
MOVE IT MOTIVATION! Studies show that obesity is a risk factor for mential decline. Listen to Emily Balcetis, social psychologist, reveal why keeping your “eyes on the prize” can quite literally help you keep the pounds off and your body healthy.
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Source: http://totalbrainhealth.com/?p=5779
DAY 10
MOVE IT MOTIVATION! Studies show that obesity is a risk factor for mential decline. Listen to Emily Balcetis, social psychologist, reveal why keeping your “eyes on the prize” can quite literally help you keep the pounds off and your body healthy.
Some much-needed time to rest, reflect and recharge from a busy and funny old year (more on that later this week). Sat here full of the Christmas binge, I’m happy to have finall…
Some much-needed time to rest, reflect and recharge from a busy and funny old year (more on that later this week). Sat here full of the Christmas binge, I’m happy to have finall…
Purpose: To compare the impact of a walking program, computer-based cognitive training program, and both programs in adults with mild cognitive impairment.
Purpose: To compare the impact of a walking program, computer-based cognitive training program, and both programs in adults with mild cognitive impairment.
